“I’m just such a people pleaser.” Ever heard yourself say that?
Usually, it’s said as though it’s a flaw that you should’ve grown out of.
But let’s pause for a moment.
What if we reframed it?
People who “please” are often:
✔️ Empathetic
✔️ Emotionally attuned
✔️ Thoughtful
✔️ Quick to help
✔️ Driven to make others feel comfortable or supported
These aren’t weaknesses. They’re strengths.
The trouble only begins when our “yes” comes at the cost of our energy, peace, or authenticity.
So how do we keep the gift of our care, without crossing into burnout or resentment?
Start here:
🌱 Notice the why behind your yes.
Are you saying yes out of alignment with our own values — or out of fear of what saying no will cause?
🌱 Ask: “Am I choosing this, or avoiding discomfort?”
🌱 Practice micro-moments of honesty.
Even a simple: “Let me check and get back to you” can buy time to tune into your real answer.
You can be kind and clear.
You can care and have boundaries.
If you would like to explore this further, please get in touch
Amanda Wallis Coaching
Wellness / Life / HR Support / 021 042 0707
